In case you couldn’t read the little post-it notes and pieces of paper on the cover, the 13 Break-Up Self-Love Activities are as follows in no specific order:
After a Break-Up, rather you were the dumper or dumpee, you’ll need to take time to grieve your relationship (See my parts 1 & 2 on grief https://www.notamomma.com/the-5-stages-of-grief-and-what-no-one-tells-you-part-2/ and https://www.notamomma.com/the-5-stages-of-grief-and-what-no-one-else-tells-you/). Self-love is a concept that can help ease this process and allow you to see yourself in (possibly) an entirely different light. You are beautiful, sexy, fun, and worth a man who has at least accomplished being the bad-ass that you have become over the years.
Let’s explore some of the listed Self-Love items above, some are pretty obvious, others, not so much.
Thinking about yourself as a Queen every day (or a Princess, like me, I will consider myself a princess until I’m at LEAST 50) is not a crime. Spoiling yourself with something every once in awhile is something you should do to keep yourself sane. Whether you’re a Momma or Notamomma, like me, you need to spoil yourself with these treats or use things like doing small things everyday like showing love to another woman. I remember going into a store one day and a woman coming out said “look at that beautiful smile!” and that made my entire day! Pass on that crown sometimes because some woman might really need it that day!
Think about self-love as more of something you would do as a treat (although there are daily things that you can do on that list) and self-care as something to avoid burnout. Maybe it’s your kids, your husband, your parents, your job, or any combination thereof that has you stressing out. You don’t want to snap and hurt someone’s feelings, but healthy venting over a girls’ night out or even something like positive journaling. I’ve just written a post on this one https://www.notamomma.com/20-positive-journal-prompts/.
Take a selfie everyday. (I’m so out of touch with the universe, so a lot people might already be doing this.) Make sure your nails are always beautiful, those are the first things people notice on your hands. If it’s sandal season, make sure your little piggies are up to par too. Make a list of the bad ass things that you did today, do some shopping (online is AWESOME!), or just do pretend shopping like me and keep adding things to your cart that you want, but can never afford.
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