13 Break-Up Self-Love Activities
In case you couldn’t read the little post-it notes and pieces of paper on the cover, the 13 Break-Up Self-Love Activities are as follows in no specific order:
- Girls’ Night Out!
- Haircut/Color/Blowout
- Mani/Pedi
- Literally *Self-Love*, I don’t think I have to explain this one to you, but it Involves being half-naked (waist down at least)
- Throw a House Party
- Book a Photo Shoot, Even Boudoir (Feel sexy, look sexy)
- Try a New Hobby
- Exercise
- Buy Yourself a Piece of Jewelry
- Make an Amazing List about YOU!!!
- Try Something You Wouldn’t Normally Do (Gun Range?)
- Try Meditation
- Buy a New Outfit, Something He Would Hate, But You Would Love, Including Accessories
Self-Love Concept
After a Break-Up, rather you were the dumper or dumpee, you’ll need to take time to grieve your relationship (See my parts 1 & 2 on grief https://www.notamomma.com/the-5-stages-of-grief-and-what-no-one-tells-you-part-2/ and https://www.notamomma.com/the-5-stages-of-grief-and-what-no-one-else-tells-you/). Self-love is a concept that can help ease this process and allow you to see yourself in (possibly) an entirely different light. You are beautiful, sexy, fun, and worth a man who has at least accomplished being the bad-ass that you have become over the years.
Let’s explore some of the listed Self-Love items above, some are pretty obvious, others, not so much.
- When I say *Self-Love* literally, ladies, I mean, explore your body to figure out what you like and what you don’t. If you don’t have a toy in the top drawer of your nightstand, babe, get one because, you’ve gotta get those expectations figured out. Watch porn. Do something that you might not do before, If he got boring in bed, you can literally spice it up on your own. Or with a one-night stand (no judgment, just use protection).
- Booking a photo shoot allows you to see the beautiful woman (or man) that you are no matter your size.I’m definitely considered plus-sized and I’ve done a shoot. Trust me, you can find a photographer good enough to do this. A boudoir shoot can be awkward at first, but so much fun once you get started and the results can be so surprisingly sexy once you get them back. Remember to pick one that you can at least hang somewhere in the house.
- Trying a new hobby doesn’t mean you have to spend a ton of money on things that you may not get around to using. Find a specific project on Pinterest, and complete it (hopefully with Dollar Tree stuff!). See if you like it and then try a few more. DISCLAIMER: I don’t receive compensation from Pinterest nor Dollar Tree to mention them in my blog, I just have to because they’re both AWESOME!
- Buy yourself a piece of jewelry. Why not? We seem to think that men are the ones who buy the meaningful jewelry and WE buy the costume jewelry. Forget that. Take some of those diamonds or some new ones and design yourself something awesome that’s all yours and meaningful to you.
- Try Something You Wouldn’t Normally Do (Gun Range?)-First of all, this was popular advice from idiots surrounding me during and after my divorce and it was obnoxious to hear so when I say this, I don’t mean “jump out of an airplane” or “bungee jump”. I’m saying something simple. Go to lunch or a movie alone. Get a tattoo (they don’t all have to be big). Also, don’t take advice from people who don’t know you or your situation.
- Follow me for meditation because I will be doing a blog on meditation and mindfulness.
- Buy a New Outfit, Something He Would Hate, But You Love, And Accessories-When I got divorced, I realized that my entire wardrobe had become neutral. I’m not neutral. I’m a color, glitter, in your face, dresser. So I started buying clothes that I knew he wouldn’t approve of (he was very controlling and abusive) and expressing myself again. Be free my little butterfly!
How to Self-Love ALL the Time
Thinking about yourself as a Queen every day (or a Princess, like me, I will consider myself a princess until I’m at LEAST 50) is not a crime. Spoiling yourself with something every once in awhile is something you should do to keep yourself sane. Whether you’re a Momma or Notamomma, like me, you need to spoil yourself with these treats or use things like doing small things everyday like showing love to another woman. I remember going into a store one day and a woman coming out said “look at that beautiful smile!” and that made my entire day! Pass on that crown sometimes because some woman might really need it that day!
The Difference Between Self-Care and Self-Love
Think about self-love as more of something you would do as a treat (although there are daily things that you can do on that list) and self-care as something to avoid burnout. Maybe it’s your kids, your husband, your parents, your job, or any combination thereof that has you stressing out. You don’t want to snap and hurt someone’s feelings, but healthy venting over a girls’ night out or even something like positive journaling. I’ve just written a post on this one https://www.notamomma.com/20-positive-journal-prompts/.
Do Something to Love Yourself Every Day
Take a selfie everyday. (I’m so out of touch with the universe, so a lot people might already be doing this.) Make sure your nails are always beautiful, those are the first things people notice on your hands. If it’s sandal season, make sure your little piggies are up to par too. Make a list of the bad ass things that you did today, do some shopping (online is AWESOME!), or just do pretend shopping like me and keep adding things to your cart that you want, but can never afford.
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