Here’s the thing: Valentine’s Day may be a commercialized holiday to some, blah, blah, blah, but, truly, it’s just another day to show, not just our special someone, but all of our loved ones, that we love and appreciate them all year long. (FYI: We should always be and never stop doing this.) In little ways, like those little candy bars (thanks for making my ass jiggle, Mr. Fiancé) from the gas station just because, running her a bath, or even scraping the ice from his windows in the morning while he’s in the shower. Just those little ways to show each other our Love Languages, the quiz is part of one of the things to do, by the way. (Devised by Gary Chapman). These little things get lost along the way, don’t let them because you don’t get that time back.
Example: I show affection by gift giving, but many men appreciate physical touch and affection more. Many people have two that are close in numbers and . I appreciate acts of service, but it’s almost tied with physical touch in numerical value.
The pressure for significant others to make the night special grows until it plateaus. But it shouldn’t. It shouldn’t have to be some grand gesture every year. What SHOULD happen every year is just something different. Without a global pandemic and off the top of my head would be a country night under the stars, the next year, a bar crawl that leads home, a ten dollar challenge at The Dollar Tree to see who gets the best stuff, cooking class together, etc. Mix it up. This year, however, we are in the midst of a global pandemic and, since rates of risk have risen due to the holiday get-togethers, I’m going to give you some little ways to make Valentine’s Day special this year. At home.
The reason I’m writing this for 13 days is, well, because it’s always been a lucky number for me and I have black cats, but, no, I’m not a witch. Well, I’ve been called much worse. The whole point of this holiday is to draw us closer to one another, right? Then, let’s focus on the experiential part of the holiday and not the gift part. I mean, um, there has to be some gift(s), but that’s not what I’m pushing for here. The idea is to be thoughtful and personal. Chocolates and roses aren’t for everyone. Some people are allergic to chocolate and some women want white roses with red food coloring in the water so that the veins of the roses are stained pink (yes, that really works and it’s the tiniest thoughtful thing to turn something impersonal, such as roses, into something personal with their favorite color). See what I mean? Aren’t those beautiful? So, it’s time to get a little personal, onto the ideas, notes, and tips for you and your fun Valentine:
The entire point of Valentine’s Day is to have an experience together. I think COVID has truly shone a light on family relationships and, if you’re miserable and need to reconnect, a “romantic” dinner in a “romantic” restaurant isn’t going to cut it. These ideas can be used anytime, for couples with and without kids and, frankly, they should be. Being stuck inside forces you to be a little creative about how to share intimate moments, but you shouldn’t be waiting for 1) a global pandemic or 2) your relationship to be rocky.
Sex keeps relationships healthy and, when it stops, the other parts and pieces of intimacy go away. You don’t need a bar or a concert or a restaurant to keep your relationship going. You need to cook together, meet each other’s needs for attention, affection, and appreciation, and don’t let the kids come between the two of you. I’m serious. If you’re parents, love comes first, then comes marriage, and THEN comes the baby in the baby carriage.
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