Ladies, it’s time to stop. Just stop. We can’t get equality as a whole if we’re constantly judging and gossiping instead of lifting each other up. I want to emphasize here that I am a bitch. I only know how to love unconditionally because I taught myself how to do it, I didn’t grow up with unconditional love, not even unconditional positive regard. I am saying this because I’ve met some of the most amazing women in my journey, thus far, and I feel like I still don’t know how to compliment other women without it sounding like it’s coming off like it’s passive aggressive, which is super-bitchy.
Stop judging other women, ladies. You know you’re doing it. I know I do it. I know every woman is doing it. Every mommy and non-mommy is doing their very best, even on their worst days. It reminds me of that scene in Bad Moms in the very beginning when she cries and says, “And I cry at least once a day in my car because I feel like the worst Mom ever”. Instead of judgment, we need to support and show some compassion. Each and every woman has a different story on any given day. Let’s cheer each other on!
Mommas need each other. As Notamomma, I have an outside perspective about what Mommas are judging about:
“Oh, can you believe she’s a book mom?”
“I can’t believe she’s bottle feeding”
“Did you hear that she and her husband haven’t had sex since the baby was born?”.
I’m one of those people who hear everything, including the inappropriate comments that my in-law makes about disciplining my nephew. Be a bitch to me all you want, but you’re not going to hurt my baby! I’m fiercely protective. FYI: We are all responsible to report what we could substantiate as child abuse.
Some Mommas stay home, some Mommas work, and some women who aren’t Momma’s do all kinds of things. There’s no reason to judge or be jealous either way.
Your children, no matter what their age, are having their own battles to fight, at school and, if old enough, at work, and with extra curricular activities. Sometimes, no matter what, you want to strangle your kids like Homer Simpson. That’s normal, but of course, you don’t do it. Some true warning signs to look for is that your child is acting out could be signs of stress, exhaustion, anxiety, or even depression. So moody teens might be moody for more reasons for than hormones. Even though hormonal teens can be just pains in the butt, let’s try not to judge. After all, we were teens once.
BABE! Whether you know it or not you are your very best self for right now. If you are struggling, it WILL get better. You will get a handle on things and they will start to fall into place. Some of you are at the very top of the mountain and you are killing it and to you, I say cheers because, I was once a self-made woman on top of the mountain and killing it and now I am just being my best self every day. Cheers to all the mommas, Notamommas, and everyone trying out there. Take a moment for yourself everyday and say 3 positive affirmations.