Sick vs Evil – Mental Illness vs Evil

**TRIGGER WARNING**

You know when you see a story on the news about a child predator that was caught? That’s what EVIL is. A woman pimping out her own children via web to make some drug money…true story… The story might be a trigger some people, but this baby needs not be forgotten. This story is EVIL, the people involved are EVIL. A man with a great deal of cash offered to give her this money if he could have sex with her baby, who was 8 MONTHS at that time. The “mother” agreed, and that baby suffered a horrific death. I cannot call her a “mother” because no Mother would do these things to their children. 

My point: you see a story of someone hurting a child, or, anyone really, please never again say the following: “what a sicko”, “what a sick puppy”, or, “He needs help”. I’m about to explain why.

Child Molesters don’t get better with pills or oversight. Most of them walk free, never to be reported. Incest is so common and people who report it to other family members are either called straight-up liars or told to keep their mouths shut as not to jeopardize the family dynamic. Please give this link from RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) a look.

Sick – Mental Illness

Mental Illness (it’s an illness and that’s way I refer to it as “Sick”) can be down into SO many diagnoses (The specifics the I used as a therapist went along with the DSM-Diagnostic Statistical Manual, which divide different Mental Illnesses into five Axes). We’re going to talk specifically about what we refer to as someone with SMI-Serious Mental Illness, who needs medications to assist them in daily living. The one I’m going to pick is Schizoaffective Disorder. If you have specific questions about this one, I will explain in as much detail as I, but I can’t cover everything in this little, but long blog! Sorry!

I do need to make one thing HIGHLY clear here: When I refer to “psychotic features”, I am giving you the true diagnosis: essentially, hallucinations, hearing or seeing things that are not there, aggressive behavior, hypervigilence, memory loss, etc. Psychosis simply means being out of touch with reality. Here’s a link that lists some more symptoms, I had a father with Bipolar 1, unfortunately, but I also worked in a residential home where folks were either waiting to go to the State hospital or coming home from and trying to adjust to a completely different lifestyles with “psychotic features” and they’re only frightening if you don’t know what they are. 

Here’s a quick breakdown: 

• Schizoaffective Disorder – Imagine that Schizophrenia and Bipolar Disorder had a baby and named it misery. Don’t get me wrong here, people, if some of these folks can find and stay on the right meds, they can do well, get a job, live independently (with some assistance). Their lives can stay consistent for some time. 
• I’d like you to think about how many people know or have known? My circle is small, damn-near non-existent, but I have known a lot of people in this life and I wonder how many of them, by now, have been diagnosed with a SMI because, much of it is diagnosed by early 20’s.
• While these symptoms if untreated, or even treated, sometimes, can seem frightening if you don’t know what you’re seeing or understand what that person is experiencing themselves. 

Evil

You can’t see EVIL tattooed on someone’s forehead. Even if it is, the person is probably not actually evil. They may be a GANG member, but’s that’s not what we’re talking about here. Evil is that feeling deep in your gut that nags at you. As adults, we often silence this inner feeling and make excuses for it. “They’re having a bad day” or “It’s nothing to worry about, I’m just being paranoid”. You’re not.

We’re talking about the really nice, young girl who’s asking too many questions about you and your kid while “Buying a toy for her niece or nephew”. If you find yourself in this predicament, you have 3 options:

Option 1: Find your husband immediately in the store and tell him about the interaction and ASK HIM discreetly, if he’s noticed anyone particular checking him out or suspiciously talking to him in the store. If someone makes your stomach flip DO NOT IGNORE IT!

Option 2: You’re alone with your kid in the store, lie about your husband. Go to check-out, NOT self-checkout. Let the clerk know that you feel you are being followed. They know you’re not with your husband. They, because, if it’s a woman approaching you, she’s not alone, have been watching you since you got out of the car. If she follows you to check-out, go to another part of the store, customer service, let’s say, and tell them ASAP you want at least 2 escorts to your vehicle NOW. Politeness is not a luxury here, people.

Option 3: Walk out alone with you, your self-defense class experience, and your Revolver in your purse. I think #3 is the epitome of dumbassery. 

I am a feminist in every sense of the choice, but I also live with someone who knows 3 types of Martial Arts, not the bowing to each other stuff, the “spar until you have a concussion way”. The “I can kill you before that Revolver is cocked kind” and, my loves, his neck size is a 20 inches. What I’m trying to say is that men and women have different strengths to use to our advantage. Do not underestimate your opponent(s).

There could be a mix of men and woman waiting for you and you have no idea until your baby is buckled into his/her car-seat and you wake up unconcious in a Wal-Mart parking lot 3 hours later. And, in case you haven’t read the news or watched it or been on the planet, baby, human trafficking is big business here in the US (and the world). I will be doing another blog on this because people need to know more about humans trafficked into the US and throughout the US. 

• You also need to consider what you’ve learned IN a self-defense class. Does it matter if you didn’t learn to safely hold your baby and fight off more than one person. 
• In self-defense, I’m guessing you learned only to defend yourself from one person. I only know this because my fiance used to teach these classes and there is only so much that people are truly allowed to teach. 
• My fiance has been mugged 2 times (he’s 6’4″, 280), once by one guy in a parking lot and once by two guys in a parking garage. Quick shoulder dislocations were placed and that was the end of it. Are you confident that you could actually dislocate someone’s shoulder in 20 seconds? Are you following my points here? 
• Do ANYTHING you need to do to stay safe. PLEASE. And always. Listen. To. Your. Gut.

How I learned the difference between Sick and Evil

As I mentioned previously, my Dad had Bipolar 1, my mother has undiagnosed depression and anxiety (at the very least), my brother and sister likely personality disorders (probably, Borderline Personality Disorders). Those are illnesses. If you examine some other personality disorders, you might that they are far more dangerous. If you refer to Cluster B, you will find Anti-Social Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. When I worked with substance abuse and people with addictions, they generally fit into the former category of symptoms, however, I didn’t have a great deal of people who presented with the latter, until I got married (another blog).

Remember how I told you to tap into that inner child’s gut intuition? I never lost mine. I can meet you and judge you within the first 60 seconds and be right that you are a bad person. I don’t care who you are. I’ll know if you’re bullshitting, if you’re being fake, if you’re a child molesters, or if you’re just downright evil. I’ve ignored that feeling once for a job; she turned out to be a heinous evil, bitter person, and bitch. I was fooled once and I saw evil staring me eye-to-eye while I was being choked unconscious by my ex while he held down my arms and sat on my chest. 

Please pick out the people in these pictures who have mental illness and or might be a truly evil person. 

How to Tap into That Inner Child’s Intuition and What to Do to Keep Your Family Safe

First: Read, The Gift of Fear: And Other Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence. By Gavin De Becker. The man has written so many books, but he has so much background and in military and security. What I learned from that book was priceless.

Secondly, teach your child about stranger danger and “bathing suit parts” and how no one is supposed to touch there, but Mommy and Daddy and to tell Mommy and Daddy right away if someone does because no one will hurt them or anything/anyone they love. They need to know what to do in public and (I’m sorry to say this, but if you have to), make them feel bad in some way, like leaving the store in the middle of shopping or making them stay right with you. The point is, make sure that you pay attention to how your children react to strangers. Get back in touch with your inner child. 

For more information, please follow the blog in-links. The first blog post pic came from the RAINN link itself and the last 2 from FreePik.  Thanks so much for the read!